first date? ten tips on how to spot a narcissist

Whenever we are on a first date, we usually worry way too much about how we are dressed, what we say, how we behave, and the like. Quite frequently, we are not our normal selves, as we are trying to make a really good impression on the person we are interested in. In fact, we try so hard that we end up looking a bit goofy or silly at best. So who has the time to scan the person sitting across the table for potential signs that he is a narcissist, right?
​Luckily, it is not that difficult to spot a narcissist in any social setting, and even less so if you are on a date with him.
The first likely sign is that he chooses the most expensive and trendy restaurant in the city, even if the food isn’t necessarily the best. What matters is that you are dining in the most expensive place in town.
The second sign: he will probably pick you up in a very expensive car, which will be extremely clean, and you might even be asked to dust off your shoes before getting in.
Sign number three: he will be better dressed than you are. Narcissists often look like they just got off a glamorous photo shoot, especially if they are on a mission to impress you.
Sign number four: he will behave like a true gentleman from the moment he rings your doorbell to the moment you sit at the table. He will open the door for you, take your coat, and walk behind you as he leads you to your table, his hand resting on your lower back.
Sign number five: he will make sure you make a grand entrance, because he wants all his friends and colleagues—who will undoubtedly be dining there—to see the trophy date he is taking to dinner.
Sign number six: he will choose your food and wine. When he engages with the waiter, you will get the impression that he really knows what he’s talking about, explaining how the steak should be cooked and why that particular wine is superior.
Sign number seven: he will be charming, attentive, seductive, and flirtatious, making you feel special.
Sign number eight: he will dominate the conversation. Even when he asks you to talk about yourself, he will steer the conversation back to him. The whole evening will revolve around him.
Sign number nine: you will go home on cloud nine, believing you’ve had the most magnificent evening of your life.
Sign number ten: the following day, you’re already yearning for him. You’re hooked.
Not every narcissist is the same; some are more toxic than others. However, the perfect first date is no guarantee that the honeymoon will last. Sadly, the opposite often happens. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is hard work, and if you think the prince charming from your first date will make regular appearances, you are unfortunately mistaken. Unless you make changes about yourself and your expectations of him, you will be regularly disappointed.