are you sure you're not in an abusive relationship?

Let’s be honest: many women today live in abusive relationships and don’t even realize it. They may believe that the abuse is their fault, that they somehow deserve it, or that this is simply “how relationships are.” While men can also be victims of abuse, women remain the most frequent targets of domestic violence.
How do you know if you’re in a toxic relationship?
First, we must discard the myth that only women with visible injuries--bruises, cuts, broken bones—are being abused. Physical violence is often the most obvious form of abuse, but it is not the only one. Many abusive relationships begin subtly, with psychological and emotional manipulation that can be harder to recognize.
Signs of psychological abuse include:
​1.     Constant put-downs, insults, or yelling
2.    Disrespect, humiliation, or criticism of your appearance or thoughts
3.    Undermining your self-confidence or blaming you for everything, including the abuser’s behavior
4.    Ignoring your wishes or exerting control over your decisions
5.    Mind games, blackmail, or manipulation
This kind of abuse often escalates over time. Many victims normalize the behavior, blaming themselves or excusing their partner. Physical violence may eventually occur, but emotional abuse usually precedes it.
Some women develop Stockholm syndrome or remain out of fear—fear of retaliation, financial dependency, or believing they aren’t worthy of a better life. Sadly, societal support is often inadequate for those seeking to leave. But these challenges are not a reason to stay. Abuse tends to escalate, eroding self-confidence, self-respect, and self-worth.
If you recognize these patterns in your relationship, act now. Trust in your strength to start over and know that you are entitled to a loving, respectful relationship. No one deserves abuse or violence.