How long have you been battling the same situation? Solving the same problems? Facing the same dilemmas? How far did you get?
When we're in the process of hanging onto something, no matter how unhealthy it is for us, we tend to get the tunnel vision. We only see what we want to see. We focus on the narrow picture and refuse to see the bigger one. We get sucked into the vortex of negative emotions, self-fulfilling prophecies and dead ends. It's draining and leading us absolutely nowhere. I'm not talking just about relationships, though we tend to fail most frequently and most miserably exactly in our interpersonal relationships ... the relationship with ourselves included. I'm talking about a wide array of areas where we simply refuse to let go, out of some ill-conceived belief that if we try long and hard enough, things will fall into place. Often, they do, if we put enough time, energy and dedication to a cause, be it relationships, career, hobbies or whatever else you got stuck on. However, there are moments when we need to admit that things are just not working out and just move on, instead of going round in circles. This kind of a situation resembles a toxic codependent relationship. A relationship which you're sort of trying to escape from or rescue at the same time, come hell or high waters. It's exhausting, frustrating, pointless. Anyhow, we need to learn how to let go. Sometimes things are just not meant to be, and that's OK. Many people believe that letting go of an obsession, for lack of a better word, signifies defeat. Actually, quite the contrary is true. Knowing when to let go and accepting it is a sign of maturity, a sign of a new level of personal development, when we're no longer trying to prove a point to ourselves or other people. When we let go, so much energy is left to be directed into things that bring us joy and excitement, instead of bleeding us dry. When we say goodbye to things that no longer work for us, we make space for new things to come into our lives. So, let's try to let go, for real, of the one thing that was bringing us sorrow. Let's give life a chance. Let's open up to new possibilities. There are so many out there that we haven't thought of out of sheer concentration on solving "that problem". Well, life has a lot to offer, but it doesn't offer us limitless time. Hence, stop wasting time and start doing what brings you joy. You've had enough problem-solving. There's no shame in cutting your losses and moving on. You've learned your lesson. It's time you declutter your emotional life. And if you have difficulty decluttering your emotional life, you can always start decluttering your closet and drawers. Give your life some much needed oxygen to breathe. Stop rehashing the past, move on, and create a better future for yourself.
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