The title might sound a bit ridiculous because where else are you supposed to be than where you went. Yet this saying also reveals one of the fundamental philosophical truths of life, for lack of a better word. A truth so basic and simple that we tend to forget about it. So, what exactly does this concept have to do with therapy? Well, believe it or not - it represents one of the basic lessons in therapy, and in life.
One of the main purposes of therapy is to help clients deal with their problems, find solutions and introduce change in how they think, react or behave. Most often, these problems arise in interpersonal relationships, be them romantic, friendly, family, neighborly or work. Sometimes, problems appear because of the intrasubjective experiences, which is just a fancy word to describe the relationship we have with ourselves. To be more specific - you have to make peace with who you are, with the stupidities you did in the past, with all your baggage. You need to learn to love yourself.
In therapy, we focus on changing what we call maladaptive patterns of cognition, emotion and behavior. Often, when we succeed in modifying these patterns, clients' relationships change as well. However, it happens that no matter how much work we put into personal growth or how many dysfunctional patterns we let go of, the same problems persist, albeit to a lesser degree. The first obvious solution in that case, though not necessarily the easiest one, is to end relationships, change jobs and move house. Kind of a radical solution, true, but effective. Sadly, not always. How could it be?
Well, a change of scenery can bring about immediate change, at least in the short run. Whenever we move, change jobs or relationships, we hold back a little at the beginning. We don't usually let our personality shine in all of its light and dark facets. We're more cautious in expressing what we think and want. Once we settle into our new life, though, old patterns tend to emerge. Hence, wherever you go, there you are. Unresolved and partially resolved issues, or those that have been just glossed over for cosmetic reasons, will come back to haunt us. People and situations will appear in our lives, and they will be triggering. We will start acting in a similar, if not exactly the same manner, as in the past. Some of it will have to do with unresolved issues with specific persons, which means we'll be experiencing a transference in our new relationships. Some of it will have to do with our own maladaptive behaviors. That's why it's really important that in therapy we go deep and introduce profound changes. Change has to be felt and owned, or else it remains something purely superficial.
Wherever you go, there you are, with all your positive and negative traits. Wherever you go, your personality follows. Therefore, if you notice that you're facing the same kind of problems wherever you go, it's perhaps time to go back to therapy.

How long have you been battling the same situation? Solving the same problems? Facing the same dilemmas? How far did you get?
When we're in the process of hanging onto something, no matter how unhealthy it is for us, we tend to get the tunnel vision. We only see what we want to see. We focus on the narrow picture and refuse to see the bigger one. We get sucked into the vortex of negative emotions, self-fulfilling prophecies and dead ends. It's draining and leading us absolutely nowhere.
I'm not talking just about relationships, though we tend to fail most frequently and most miserably exactly in our interpersonal relationships ... the relationship with ourselves included. I'm talking about a wide array of areas where we simply refuse to let go, out of some ill-conceived belief that if we try long and hard enough, things will fall into place. Often, they do, if we put enough time, energy and dedication to a cause, be it relationships, career, hobbies or whatever else you got stuck on. However, there are moments when we need to admit that things are just not working out and just move on, instead of going round in circles. This kind of a situation resembles a toxic codependent relationship. A relationship which you're sort of trying to escape from or rescue at the same time, come hell or high waters. It's exhausting, frustrating, pointless.  
Anyhow, we need to learn how to let go. Sometimes things are just not meant to be, and that's OK. Many people believe that letting go of an obsession, for lack of a better word, signifies defeat. Actually, quite the contrary is true. Knowing when to let go and accepting it is a sign of maturity, a sign of a new level of personal development, when we're no longer trying to prove a point to ourselves or other people.
When we let go, so much energy is left to be directed into things that bring us joy and excitement, instead of bleeding us dry. When we say goodbye to things that no longer work for us, we make space for new things to come into our lives.
So, let's try to let go, for real, of the one thing that was bringing us sorrow. Let's give life a chance. Let's open up to new possibilities. There are so many out there that we haven't thought of out of sheer concentration on solving "that problem". Well, life has a lot to offer, but it doesn't offer us limitless time. Hence, stop wasting time and start doing what brings you joy. You've had enough problem-solving. There's no shame in cutting your losses and moving on. You've learned your lesson. It's time you declutter your emotional life. And if you have difficulty decluttering your emotional life, you can always start decluttering your closet and drawers. Give your life some much needed oxygen to breathe. Stop rehashing the past, move on, and create a better future for yourself.